I seem to remember that sex researchers have indicated that men and women get sexually aroused in different ways and at different rates. Men are aroused by visual stimuli -- and they get aroused quickly and easily. Women are more sensual/tactile/... something -- and it takes them longer.
Why?
Visualize the "doggie style" position for each gender. She's on all fours, facing away from the male. She probably has her knees apart. She may have her face on the ground. The male is directly behind the female. Let's say he's already on his knees.
What can he see of her? He can see her hips and her genitals (and, of course, legs, feet, etc), but virtually nothing of her upper body. She "presents" (that's the anthropological term) in this manner, he SEES her invitation, and he promptly gets aroused.
What can she see of him? Absolutely nothing. Nothing about her involvement in the sex act is visual. She only knows what he's doing when she feels him do it.
I submit that this explains the findings of the sex researchers (and if any of them came to the same conclusion, I don't know).
Sunday, September 4, 2011
Saturday, August 27, 2011
Shaving
This question (actually multiple questions) is mostly for the ladies... Of course gentlemen may respond too.
Do you shave your pubic hair? If so, when did you start (how long ago and/or at what age), and why did you start?
From my viewing of online photography and reading of Playboy, it seems the practice exploded back around 2002. Was there some kind of memo? <heh>
Let me say that I have a strong preference for shaved vulvas. I could stare at a shapely shaved pussy for a long time without getting bored. Trimmed is 'okay' but I really dislike full bush.
In the interest of full disclosure, both my wife and I shave. She was doing it before we met (so was an early adopter of the practice). I started when I needed a vasectomy, and my wife and I realized we both liked it -- so I've kept doing it. That was 6+ years ago.
Do you shave your pubic hair? If so, when did you start (how long ago and/or at what age), and why did you start?
From my viewing of online photography and reading of Playboy, it seems the practice exploded back around 2002. Was there some kind of memo? <heh>
Let me say that I have a strong preference for shaved vulvas. I could stare at a shapely shaved pussy for a long time without getting bored. Trimmed is 'okay' but I really dislike full bush.
In the interest of full disclosure, both my wife and I shave. She was doing it before we met (so was an early adopter of the practice). I started when I needed a vasectomy, and my wife and I realized we both liked it -- so I've kept doing it. That was 6+ years ago.
How to say "thank you"
On the off-chance anyone reads this, I'd like your opinion on this topic of debate.
Resolved: "Sex is a perfectly acceptable way to say 'thank you.'"
Resolved: "Sex is a perfectly acceptable way to say 'thank you.'"
Monday, May 30, 2011
First post in *this* blog
Okay. What's with the name of this blog??? What's the deal with the "Mr. Cellophane"?
You're only asking that question if you're not familiar with the musical/movie Chicago. In that show, Amos Hart sings "Mr. Cellophane" -- a song that describes his perception of himself; viz. that he's virtually invisible to everyone around him. Here's the song from the movie (I hope the link works; it looks as if it should).
Similarly, I seem to be able to move through a crowd and never be noticed (despite being the height and weight of an NFL receiver). I'm the polar opposite of my wife. Even people who have never met her seem to know who she is.
Having said that, I'm sure I don't need to add (do I?) that Amos Hart is not my real name. Why use a pseudonym? Because I write erotic fiction under this name, and would prefer that no one know who I really am. I think I've pulled that off so far. My wife might know. Other than she? Sherlock Holmes maybe, but I doubt it.
Erotic fiction? Yep. I write a bit of, and read quite a lot. I have (only) two stories on asstr.org. Go take a look if you're inclined. I have several others in various stages of INcompletion -- ranging from "about ready to post" to "rough drafts" to "barely-formed ideas." Maybe I'll get around to doing more. Maybe the existence of this blog will inspire me.
The impetus for forming this blog was that my friend and fellow erotica writer Mr. Frenulum recently started a blog here (and I hope it's not too presumptuous of me to call him friend). I wanted/needed an identity here in order to interact with his blog. He's an excellent writer (and much more prolific than I). His stories are the kind I like. See his blog at http://mrfrenulum.blogspot.com/ and his stories at http://www.asstr.org/~frenulum/.
Finally, I'm not really sure how often I'll post here, or even how often I'll see if anyone has commented. Please don't take that as an affront. Also, please forgive any typos that get past my editing. I strive for accuracy, but don't always succeed.
You're only asking that question if you're not familiar with the musical/movie Chicago. In that show, Amos Hart sings "Mr. Cellophane" -- a song that describes his perception of himself; viz. that he's virtually invisible to everyone around him. Here's the song from the movie (I hope the link works; it looks as if it should).
Similarly, I seem to be able to move through a crowd and never be noticed (despite being the height and weight of an NFL receiver). I'm the polar opposite of my wife. Even people who have never met her seem to know who she is.
Having said that, I'm sure I don't need to add (do I?) that Amos Hart is not my real name. Why use a pseudonym? Because I write erotic fiction under this name, and would prefer that no one know who I really am. I think I've pulled that off so far. My wife might know. Other than she? Sherlock Holmes maybe, but I doubt it.
Erotic fiction? Yep. I write a bit of, and read quite a lot. I have (only) two stories on asstr.org. Go take a look if you're inclined. I have several others in various stages of INcompletion -- ranging from "about ready to post" to "rough drafts" to "barely-formed ideas." Maybe I'll get around to doing more. Maybe the existence of this blog will inspire me.
The impetus for forming this blog was that my friend and fellow erotica writer Mr. Frenulum recently started a blog here (and I hope it's not too presumptuous of me to call him friend). I wanted/needed an identity here in order to interact with his blog. He's an excellent writer (and much more prolific than I). His stories are the kind I like. See his blog at http://mrfrenulum.blogspot.com/ and his stories at http://www.asstr.org/~frenulum/.
Finally, I'm not really sure how often I'll post here, or even how often I'll see if anyone has commented. Please don't take that as an affront. Also, please forgive any typos that get past my editing. I strive for accuracy, but don't always succeed.
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